Monthly Archives: April 2024

Get Away From It All

I lived alone, in the woods, a mile from any neighbor . . .

~ David Henry Thoreau, Walden, 1854

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I’m fascinated with the concept of mindfulness. According to mindfulness guru Jon Kabat-Zinn, mindfulness is “paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally.” It first came to my attention about 20 years ago as a fellow with the American Leadership Forum, a national leadership organization with a chapter in Silicon Valley. At the time, I was an ambitious corporate climber and aspiring civic leader. I had places to go, people to see, and things to do. My mind swirled with ideas about the future. I didn’t have time to live in the “present moment.”

Too bad for me. According to the National Institute of Health, the benefits of the practice include reducing anxiety, improving sleep, lowering blood pressure, clearing the mind for better decision-making . . . the list goes on and on. Six years after becoming a Senior Fellow with the American Leadership Forum, my mind was cluttered, I was anxious, I didn’t sleep well, and my blood pressure was soaring.

Since a massive heart attack, living a decade with heart failure, and a heart transplant rocked my world, I’ve been fascinated with the concept of mindfulness. An amazing therapist with the Kaiser Santa Clara advanced heart failure team reintroduced the idea of mindfulness to me. Good for me. I no longer had places to go, people to see, and things to do. I read a bunch of books, had great conversations with my therapist, and subscribed to the Calm App to learn more. The more I learn, the more fascinated I’ve become. 

One of the books I read is an American classic, Walden by David Henry Thoreau. It’s a beautiful book about the author’s experience getting away from it all by living in the woods for 2 ½ years by himself. He describes in graceful detail the wonders of the natural world. His observations of a blue jay or sycamore tree take paragraphs to describe. The book is really hard to read unless you’re mindful of every word. Thoreau’s point is clear. There’s more to life than hustle and bustle.

The first sentence captured my attention. He writes, “I lived alone, in the woods, a mile from any neighbor.” What he describes is in the middle of nowhere. His only connection to civilization was the “sound of a locomotive” far off in the distance arriving in the nearby town of Concord, Massachusetts. Otherwise, the surrounding woods were so quiet he could hear every faint sound nature makes. 

As I was reading the book, I had a hard time believing that he was that secluded. The center of town was 1.6 miles from Walden Pond. That’s not very far. I couldn’t imagine being in the boondocks a mile and a half from my house. While Thoreau’s prose is elegant and vividly descriptive, I couldn’t help but call “bullshit” that he was that close to town, yet completely isolated. 

I know, I know. The stuff that runs through my mind seems silly and inconsequential. BUT . . . come on Mr. Thoreau!

As I pulled into the parking lot at the entrance of Alum Rock Park the other day, I decided to test the accuracy of Thoreau’s description. Alum Rock Park sits in a rugged canyon in the foothills east of San Jose. It has many trails that lead deeper into the canyon and into the hills that surround the canyon floor. I thought it a perfect place to experiment with the idea that one could be isolated less than two miles from “civilization.” 

From the parking lot, I started at the trailhead of the Penitencia Creek Trail that winds its way into the park. My goal for the hike was to pay attention to the nature around me on purpose, in the present moment, and without judgment. Once I was 1.6 miles away from the parking lot, I would survey my surroundings to determine if Thoreau’s representation of his surroundings was convincing.  

Walking along the creek, I immersed myself in the sights and sounds of the trail. The rainy season turned Alum Rock Park into a beautiful canvas of many shades of green. The hillside is cluttered with uprooted trees and stray branches thrown about most likely from storms. Carpet-like grasses and thin tree limbs swayed in the wind while a couple of deer nibbled on leaves in the distance.

I initially thought that nature sounds playing in my airpods would be a cool soundtrack. No music. No podcasts. After a few seconds, I realized that it was a dumb idea of a typical 21st century Silicon Valley man addicted to electronic devices. The more I thought about it, the sillier it sounded. I chuckled at my total disregard for mindfulness. Water running through the creek, small pebble gravel crunching under my hiking boots, and birds chirping were the only sounds I heard as I walked. 

Finally, I stopped at the ruins of mineral springs from a bygone era of the park. From the late 1800s to the 1930s, people flocked to Alum Rock Park because they believed that the mineral water there had healing effects. I was standing 1.6 miles from the trailhead parking lot and the housing development nearby. Looking around, I saw squirrels scurrying about, a couple of quail trotting across the trail, and a vulture gracefully gliding high above the ridge line of the canyon looking for lunch.

I was in the middle of nowhere! 

Birds were singing and chirping, the creek was babbling, the sound of wind blowing through the trees brought an indescribable peace and calm to my being. Like Thoreau’s “sound of a locomotive” in the distance, the only sign of civilization as I stood 1.6 miles from a neighborhood was the faint roar of a jetliner departing San Jose Mineta International Airport flying high above to an unknown destination.

I hiked a little further into the canyon before turning around to head back to the parking lot. The return journey was also filled with wonder. The sounds of singing birds, animals scampering in the brush, and rushing creek water were louder and more distinctive. I was admiring a family of ducks paddling in the creek when I noticed a vulture flying right at me. I smelled myself and checked the heartbeat on my Apple Watch just in case the vulture knew something I didn’t know. To my relief, the large bird landed on a tree branch with a dead bird in its beak. 

What did my little experiment teach me? Thoreau was telling the truth. You could be less than two miles from civilization, yet be totally alive, clear-minded, and isolated from the noise of the world. Maybe, just maybe, the real truth coming from my experiment is that “paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, nonjudgmentally” can put you in the same place even amid the chaos of life.

Hmm . . . I have some more work to do on this mindfulness stuff.

Idaho is 4

Getting ready to speak at the SJSU Latino Alumni Network Legacy Dinner – April 4, 2024

Good morning, Mr. García, Your new heart just arrived in the hospital. It looks great. We’ll get started soon. ~ Dr. John MacArthur, April 16, 2020

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Sandra, Erica, and I were watching The Voice and spending a nice shelter-in-place evening together. We had just started to enjoy a small scoop of vanilla ice cream when my cell phone began to buzz. It was around 9:30 p.m. The number was that of my cardiologist’s office. The three of us looked at each other, intuitively knowing why the doctor was calling so late.

Our instincts were confirmed. She had called to tell me that Stanford had identified a donor heart that was a “great” match for me. She advised me that I should expect a call within the hour. After forty-five minutes of nervous anticipation, Stanford called with instructions on when and how to report to the hospital.

Once at the hospital, a cardiac nurse started preoperative preparations and gave me some light sedatives to help me relax. Soon, a surgeon walked in and said, “Good morning, Mr. García, Your new heart just arrived in the hospital. It looks great. We’ll get started soon.” The next thing I remember is the same doctor telling me, “Congratulations, Mr. García. You have a new heart! It’s working great. You have a Ferrari in your chest.” I named my new heart “Idaho.”

Just like that, I had a second chance at life. The past 1,460 days have been quite a ride. On my first day at home, I started feeling like the biggest failure in the world. That’s not unusual. About 63% of heart transplant recipients suffer from depression and/or anxiety within the first five years after surgery. I had both. In a big way. I was physically weak and mentally I wasn’t much better. I thought that someone more deserving could make better use of this fresh start.

Sandra and the girls showed their love by encouraging me to soldier on. I responded by reaching out to a physical therapist and a psychologist. One worked on my mind while the other worked on my body. Months of intense therapy gave me a fighting chance to find my way. By my first heartiversary – April 16, 2021 – I was hiking up hills, hitting golf balls, shooting baskets, and didn’t think I was that much of a loser. I’m still working on that last piece. It’s an ongoing process.

I started the second year post-transplant on a high note walking three to four miles every day and meeting with a therapist to work on my psyche once a month. Things looked promising until a special blood test found that my body was rejecting Idaho. Organ rejection is the leading cause of death for transplant recipients. The news was no bueno. The good news is that the blood test detected the rejection before Idaho suffered any major damage. I was back in the game!

Two months after my second heartiversary, I published Summer in the Waiting Room: Faith • Hope • Love. That was a big day! It was also symbolic. The publication date – June 7, 2022 – was exactly twelve years after the massive heart attack that started this health mess I got myself into. I had my first book signing on World Heart Day – September 29, 2022 – at a health center in East San Jose, not far from where I grew up. Even though mostly family and friends were there, I was nervous about speaking in front of people again. It had been more than three years.

I wore traditional gray flannel pants, navy blue blazer, and light blue dress shirt with polished brown dress shoes just like I would have during my career as an executive and school board president. It turned out to be a great evening. For the first time in more than a decade, it felt like I was “back.” Long gone were the days and nights right after the transplant where I found myself in bed in a fetal position with a sore body and broken soul.

It was around this time that Sandra and other loved ones encouraged me to “enjoy life” and do “what makes you happy.” After everything I had been through, I deserved that, they said. To borrow a phrase from my party days, I thought to myself, “don’t threaten me with a good time.” In those days, enjoying life and doing what makes me happy always included unhealthy but great tasting food, plenty of alcohol, and laughing until my cheeks hurt. 

Since two of those three components are no longer at my disposal, I needed to find another way. The successful book signing event reminded me that I have a passion for telling stories and speaking in public. Could I do speaking engagements more often now that I kinda got my speaking mojo back? Or was that a one-time deal with the safety net of mostly family and friends? One thing was clear. I definitely enjoyed myself that evening and had fun. 

Shortly after that, God’s plan revealed itself. Opportunities started coming my way. By my third heartiversay, I was back to doing leadership training with the Latino Leadership Alliance and high school students. I was in front of small groups of professionals and teenagers telling stories and helping people. What followed were speaking opportunities in Washington, D.C., Seattle, and Fresno, four national podcasts, and several webinars. I was enjoying life and having fun! 

So what did Idaho and I do for our fourth birthday together? 

In the morning, we went to my high school alma mater to talk with students on Career Day. Later that afternoon, we met with the ASB student council at Luis Valdez Leadership Academy to brainstorm about a civic engagement project. We spent the evening with my family, the best part of the day. We had a decadent dinner at Olive Garden, and capped the evening binge watching Law and Order: SUV, drinking coffee and eating a strawberry cream pie from McDonald’s. Okay, I slipped a little. Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. 

Idaho and I were enjoying life to the fullest and we were doing what made us happy!

We started a new year together the next day with a five-mile hike along Coyote Creek. At the halfway point at Hellyer Lake, I sat on a bench watching the cattails sway in the breeze. I could feel the gentle wind on my face as if God’s hands were caressing my cheeks. He was surely telling me, “that’s how you enjoy life and do what makes you happy.”  At that moment, it all made sense.

Hellyer Lake – April 17, 2024

I thought about another one of my party day mantras from back in the day, courtesy of George Strait. “I ain’t here for a long time, I’m here for a good time.” Now I have a new formula to enjoy life and do what makes me happy. Hanging out with my family, telling stories to whomever will listen, and public speaking. Sounds like a plan. Hopefully, I can also get in a few laughs until my cheeks hurt.